Can anyone actually ever really fall for someone else just by seeing the photo of the aforesaid person??? In the olden days that was what some folks had to go thru. The matchmaker would bring some photos of a prospective bride or groom for the parents of the some girl or guy who is looking for a spouse for the child. The matchmaker would give glowing remarks and reviews about the person whose photo is being shown in hopes that they’ll pick one and she’ll get a commission. Most times the couple would only 1st speak to each other after they are wedded and they have some time alone while they are in their matrimonial chamber. Only after they are wedded would they know what kind of person their spouse is like. And suprisingly enough, majority of these arranged marriages actually do last till death did them apart. These folks actually learn to love their spouses and they learn to accept the fact that ‘This is the person I marry and gonna live my WHOLE life with. I HAVE to accept my lot and stick with it’
The idea of an arranged marriage without even knowing the person at least a little bit is an idea that is quite backdated and unthinkable to alot od people in these day and age for they think that the best way to find love is for they themselves to look for it and that they MUST know EVERYTHING about the significant half before they can make a lifelong commitment. Well, if that idea is so true and foolproof then why is it that there is a rise in the rate of divorces and unmarried folks???? Something for you to think about there.
I myself am impartial to both ideologies. Especially so since I recently thought to myself what is I just get the parents (especially my mum) to just look for a match for me. For one thing it would help in lifting the burden of LOOKING. Secondly, if parents were to choose for you they would obviously have your well being in mind in the decisions that they make. Just have to make sure I tell em’ that I would have to go out at least once with the person they chose before forcing me to get hitched. Just to get a rough idea what the guy is like. PLUS, I have to make sure that the guy is handsome enough according to my taste. I don’t care if others doesn’t think he’s cute but since I’m the one that’s gonna be stuck with the man then MY opinion matters the Mostest! But nope, I haven’t gave my mum the permission to do that, yet. But seriously, the falling for someone just by looking at the pix and hearing someone else describe him to you is quite true. As it is, I am slowly getting very attracted to the brother of a fellow blogger ( no Loos, NOT your bro!) just beacause, a) he’s CUTE!, and b) From what the sister describe of him in her blog he seems like a very good calon suami, you know pious, responsible, no undesirable past…etc.. And also because he damn hot looking lah.. sighs, like I’ve said countless of times before, I is very the Shallow.
But really, I am not fussy in my choices. Seriously. My choice is simple, he looks good to me, he’s nice and loyal, loving and pious, patient and endering, responsible and smart. Oh yeah, If I find him physically attractive then it’s NabShot perfect match already lah. No I don’t mean physically as in body or face but physically as in how comfortable I would feel if I am to be near him. Would he attract me to come closer or would I have a repel effect. It’s just a gir’s gut instinct lah. If a girl if comfortable towards a guy then she would find herself very comfortable and safe being in close proximity to a guy even though she doesn’t know the chap. Guys might not understand this but I’m sure if you ask of this to girls out there they would instantly know what I mean. See, we girls have our “Space” enough said. DOn’t belive? Go and experiment for yourself. But let me warn you, if you men kena whack in the face with the Big 5 then it’s not my problem. You wanted to try it out so much what.